Michaela walked out of school yesterday and looked so sad....she said' "I just want to go home."
That's not like her.
I opened up her communication binder to see what was up....the wind was knocked out of me. I knew this was coming, they are pre-teens, but my heart just aches and I can't shake the sadness I have for her.
As you can imagine, the common topic these days for 5th graders is "who is dating who".....I know, REALLY?! You are only 10, for goodness sakes! But, that's what it is.
Apparently, this was the topic of discussion at Michaela's lunch table yesterday. Of course, she doesn't truly get what they mean by "dating"....and quite honestly, I don't think many of the others do either, but anyway....She does understand about "liking" boys and boys "liking" girls and she has a little thing for an incredibly nice boy in her class, who happened to be sitting at the same lunch table.
So a few of the girls were listing who they were dating, and Michaela joins in and tells them she's dating 'P'....who is sitting at the table and turns several shades of red....not that I blame him. He's such a great kid, he turns to her and says, "I'm so glad we are friends, but we're too young to date." I just want to hug this boy, he couldn't have handled it any better.
But unfortunately, Michaela 'got it' and was embarrassed and sad. No, sad isn't the right word....she was heartbroken. When we talked about it later, she asked if she'd ever have a boyfriend, to which I answered maybe someday when you are older.
Then she drops the bombshell question and my heart felt like it was ripped open.....
"Why can't I be normal?"
Monday after Christmas
9 hours ago
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I am trying so hard not to let the tears flow because I just did my makeup and I have to leave for work in 15 min. Oh Laura my heart breaks for both of you. We all go through our children getting there hearts broke, but with our kids it is so much more wrenching. I spoke with Amy a little on facebook. I am having such a hard time having Noah in my class at the daycare because I am having the difference between him and his peers shoved in my face. I know this day will come for us too. Sometimes I think he already sees it, but maybe that is more me. I love you guys and wish I could give you both a big hug right now.
Laura, I'm so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. All we've dealt with so far is teasing (and that was just this weekend). I don't think anything can ever prepare you for hearing those words come out of your child's mouth. Wish I could take you out for a margarita this evening and visit. Thinking of you and sending a big hug your way. We love your family.
OH LAURA ! My heart breaks too. I know that it is hard for Hannah because she too does not have a boyfriend( I know at that age stupid idea anyway) but that Michaela has that issue and knows that it may never happen...just makes me sad. I am thankful that the boy that she is friends with is so kind, it could have been so much worse! I am sorry that it has happened and so young. That would make for a really hard day for me too. Love you both :)
I have tears in my eyes for her..
I hope i never hear those words. its like a curse.
so sorry.
That is absolutely gut wrenching, Laura. Sending both you and Michaela hugs. It sucks to have to deal with "dating" issues at this young of an age. Ugh.
I knew I had better wait to read this until later in the day. ugh this crap starts way to early enough then our poor kiddos get in the mix. sometimes i wish i didn't push so hard for inclusion cause it just invites MORE crap into my bubble. i know her poor little heart is hurting but thank goodness for that little boy, imagine if he was a butt what could have been said. i guess i can only hope some good boys still exist when my lila gets there. give her hugs from us.
crying....for both of you....that just flat out sucks...I know this will be Ari before I know it. Being a "tween" isn't easy if you don't have a disability but if you do...it's even worse...hopefully things will get better for her and she will adjust to this "faster track" that these girls are on. UGH! love you both
:( That must have been so hard to hear, so hard to try to answer.... thinking of you and sending you hugs.. :(:(
Oh. My. God. I am bawling. I am so incredibly sorry. Laura, I wish I was next door. I love you and just know you are not alone. We are a few years behind you, but we are in the same boat. I love you.
My ws son is 14. We live in Oklahoma. We are now involved with a few other kids with ws. They talk on the phone, or email through yahoo, or do OOVOO (webcam). This has helped my son tremendously. He now has a "girlfriend" who lives in New York. We would be happy to have your daughter to talk to also. You can email me privately at: adelpatool@sstelco.com or cal: 918-851-4548
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